How To Build Self Confidence By Doing What You Say You Will Do
Self confidence isn’t something that appears magically – self confidence comes from within and it’s developed from your actions.
Your genetics don’t determine whether you will be confident or not. Neither you can say that “today I will be confident” or “let’s be confident”. Confidence hacks rarely work.
I always read tips like: “go to the gym and build your body” or “read books and meditate” and then you will be more confident.
Of course, working out and reading books can have a huge positive impact in your life. They can also make you feel a little better about yourself. But they won’t bring that long lasting confidence…
Self confidence is derived from action
that is consistent with your thoughts and words.
As soon as you understand this, you will know how to build self confidence.
For instance, let’s assume you say that from Monday you will start dieting. But when Monday comes, you realize that you are invited in a wedding. And you say “never mind, I will start dieting the next week”.
As soon as you do that something really bad happens.
You are programming your brain to act in a certain negative way that will impact every area of your life.
Now you might be thinking: “how will this small decision impact my entire life”?
It all comes down to a brain function called neuroplasticity. I have explained how neuroplasticity works in detail in this article.
But in simple words: when you say that you will do something – but you never do it – your brain is programmed to act in this way for everything you do.
New neural pathways are created in your brain each time you make a decision and they are reinforced each time you make a new one.
If you do something different from what you said you would do in the first place – and if you behave like this several times – you will start procrastinating about everything.
And this will impact your entire life in a negative way because you won’t have faith in yourself.
How can you be confident when you never do what you say you will do?
How will someone take you seriously if you say that you will start eating healthy and then you eat a big pizza for dinner?
It’s such a minor thing but this behavior will also haunt you in your job, business, relationships and everything you do!
How To Fix This & Increase Your Self Confidence
The good news are that you can fix it and you can become more confident and disciplined.
If you say that you will do something and then go out there and really do it you will develop some strong neural pathways. These neural pathways will become stronger and stronger in the future.
When you do what you say you will do, you build trust in yourself. You build faith in yourself. You learn to believe in yourself.
Because you know that when you say something, you are not just a talker. And as soon as this happens constantly you will start developing your self confidence!
Now, the question that might be lingering in your brain must be: how can I apply this theory in my life right now?
The simplest way to build up new positive neural pathways is to take a 30 day challenge.
Say that you will do something for 30 days consistently and then do what you said. After 30 days you will obviously be more disciplined, focused and self confident than before.
To see how this works in action, I will take my own 30 day challenge here. Not only I will keep you posted about the results but you will also be here to see if I really do what I say or not.
I would be a hypocrite if I talked about all these things without really applying them in my life – and without being disciplined and focused myself.
So here is the challenge which will start on 1st September and end on 30 September:
- I will write and post one quality article every day for 30 days.
- Posts won’t lack in-depth and quality – they must be consistent to what I have written until now – or they should be even better. They must be in the range of 1200-3000 words. I am not allowed to publish posts lower than 1200 words.
- No excuses are allowed – No matter what happens I must write one article per day for 30 days. That’s how I will boost my self confidence and become more disciplined.
This challenge was inspired by Mike’s 30 day video challenge:
So if you want to check how this works on yourself you can follow up with a similar challenge. Say that you will do something for 30 days and track your progress for the next 30 days.
You could probably use an excel file or a calendar to be more organized.
You don’t have to blog about it, unless you want it.
But, beware: because nobody is watching you taking the challenge, it doesn’t mean you are allowed to cheat.
Because if you cheat when no one is watching, you will be fooling yourself.
And if you want to become successful, develop rock solid confidence and kick-ass discipline you have to do what you say you will do!
So let’s do it! Take a 30-day challenge with me!
Let me know what your challenge will be in the comments below!