Are you looking for a mentor to help you succeed in your business, career or profession, but have no idea how to find one?
I will tell you how to get a mentor by using the most effective method in existence.
A method guaranteed to work for anyone who wants to get mentoring from someone successful, regardless of where you live.
Before revealing what I consider the best mentor acquisition tip in the world, I will share with you, what my mentor, Tai Lopez had initially told me on the subject of getting a mentor.
Tai Lopez might be a controversial figure, but you have to admit that he has achieved some great accomplishments.
Dining with billionaire Mark Cuban and spending time with celebrities like Tommy Hilfiger, Terell Owens, Rihanna and Chris Paul prove that Tai has solid social skills.
What’s more, he had many mentors in his life.
Here is what he shared with me on the subject of finding a mentor:
Are you wondering how Tai managed to do that?
Let’s break down his advice and give you a simple, straightforward step by step plan to get your own mentor.
HOW TO GET A MENTOR STEP 1: You need to be patient to get them:
Most mentors take from 1 to 18 months to form a relationship with.
Rarely will anyone decide to mentor you the moment he meets you, just like you wouldn’t get married to someone you just met.
You might instantly distinguish an opportunity for mentorship, just like an opportunity for a relationship, but you won’t get to put a ring on them that same day.
Finding a mentor is a long-term game, not an event.
It’s actually like forming a friendship.
Good friendships take years to form – usually more than 5-10 years. The test of time is the ultimate taste, and whoever doesn’t cut it, is not really a “friend” – just an acquaintance.
In the same way, you can’t expect someone to become your mentor in just a few minutes, days, weeks or even months.
You must absolutely start now though.
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You have to give it time, meet with them multiple times, spend time with them (as much as they allow you to) and be painstakingly patient.
How much time will it take?
It takes as long as it takes.
The reward is invaluable, and there is no quantitative measure of time that would make you qualify for a mentorship or not.
HOW TO GET A MENTOR STEP 2: It’s a numbers game:
You usually need to reach out to ten mentors in order to find one.
Successful people don’t succeed by giving their time away to every person that asked for it.
The successful, influential and wealthy are too busy to babysit you.
Even those who would probably like to help you, don’t have the time to do it.
Some might refuse right away.
Why should they share their secrets with an unknown person who has done nothing for them?
On top of that, what if that person squanders their valuable time and doesn’t meet their high expectations?
There will also be people you won’t even be able to reach out to, as they are very remote.
A few months ago, I tried to contact a world renown, Greek multi-millionaire entrepreneur.
I wasn’t able to find an address or a way to contact him anywhere on the web. No matter what I did, it was a total dead-end.
So, it is a numbers-game. And the odds are not in your favor.
Yet, this shouldn’t disappoint you.
The more you try and the more people you meet, the more chances you have to get a mentor.
If you are sitting in your sofa and not taking any action, you will never find one anyway.
And you will deprive yourself of so many good things if you make that mistake…
HOW TO GET A MENTOR STEP 3: Know your stuff:
You have to be impressive and knowledgeable when you meet them. Reminding them of their younger self will help you make a good first impression.
That’s a big one.
If you don’t know your stuff, then nobody will be impressed enough to mentor you.
Mentors want to see potential.
This is gauged by the way you speak, the way you listen and what you’ve accomplished so far, although the latter is not a prerequisite to getting a mentor.
It definitely pays to have accomplished something that’s impressive. Something that draws the attention of people around you.
If you do something that even the most successful men in the world weren’t able to accomplish, then it instantly sets you apart.
Everywhere I go, people are interested to hear more.
How often do you meet the 20 year old CEO of a the largest consulting firm for Amazon Sellers in the world?
A couple days ago I had conversation with the multi-millionaire owner of a wildly popular restaurant franchise.
If I hadn’t done anything with my life, he wouldn’t have been interested to talk to me.
New Age Conqueror RULE: Accomplishments demand attention
The rarer your accomplishments, the higher your chances to impress, be remembered and never forgotten.
How do you think Arnold Schwarzenegger was mentored by the great bodybuilder Reg Park?
Arnold was just 15 when he won the title of Junior Mr. Europe in 1965.
He met Reg Park in 1966.
Reg must have undoubtedly been impressed by young Arnold’s potential.
He mentored him.
Arnold went on to become Mr.Universe when he was 20 years old and 7 times Mr.Olympia later on.
He defeated and surpassed the beast Sergio Oliva, and eventually his idol and mentor, Reg Park.
New Age Conqueror RULE: Mentors can help you get ahead, but only if you are willing to help yourself first.
If you haven’t accomplished anything impressive in your life, then you will find it hard to get a mentor.
It’s still possible, but slightly harder, because your accomplishments do not demand attention and thus you appear as if you had less potential.
Nobody wants to mentor a loser. But. Everybody wants to be associated with a winner.
— Damian Pros (@dareandconquer) June 1, 2016
What’s more, everybody wants to be associated with a winner that reminds them of themselves.
Humans are ego-driven, for better or worse.
If you go to someone successful and you remind him of his own self, then he will be more inclined to help you.
HOW TO GET A MENTOR STEP 4: Start with virtual mentors
Take online courses, attend conferences, watch YouTube videos and read books. This will keep your momentum going as you search for your mentor.
As I said, you can’t find a mentor if you are not actively looking for one.
While nothing beats interpersonal relationships, the internet offers you a great advantage: connecting with people on the other side of the world that you wouldn’t be able to talk to otherwise.
If you draw someone’s attention in the online world, you might as well draw it in the real world.
Find someone successful who is years ahead of you. Take his courses. Read his books. Review his website and programs. Offer additional exposure or even advice and suggestions.
Why do you think I have reviewed Tai Lopez’s 67 Steps To The Good Life?
They’ve been my mentors and advisors and I had to get on their radar somehow.
HOW TO GET A MENTOR STEP 5: The “Tripwire” Method
Tai’s advice on finding and getting your mentor is solid, but there is more than that.
I am going to share with you the best and most effective method you can use to get a mentor.
(Not the easiest though.)
Be prepared to work hard and feel uncomfortable in the beginning, but the reward in the end is truly worth the fight.
Here is the 5th step of getting a mentor.
It’s called the tripwire, from the respective marketing principle.
How does it work?
You locate a rich-successful man (preferably in your area, but not necessarily) who has already achieved what you want to achieve. Ask to work for him for free. In return, he will share his knowledge and life advice with you.
Remember what I said about humans being ego-driven?
Most people feel so entitled that would request someone to mentor them, without giving anything in return!
Something for nothing exchanges never get you anywhere though, and no successful person worth a damn would ever agree to such a one-sided deal.
You can’t just go to people and “take take take” without ever giving. You first give, unconditionally, and then maybe, you get something in return.
The majority of ordinary Joes do not want to learn from a mentor. They want an “easy shortcut” and they jeopardize potential relationships to get it.
A few people would be willing to temporarily work for free in return for getting experience and insight into an industry.
Idiots ask for a job and a paycheck, instead of valuable knowledge and experience.
It’s ironic how easier it is to get a job and a paycheck after you get the knowledge and experience.
It’s so ironic I laugh out loud at the entitled freeloaders that go the opposite route, in search for instant profits.
Also, think about it from this perspective:
If you are not willing to work for free for someone, then why should that someone be willing to mentor you for free?
It’s completely irrational.
That person YOU want to become your mentor doesn’t owe you anything.
But if you give something of value to him (your time), then he might reciprocate by giving you something of value (his life experience).
That’s the most ridiculously simple and easy way to get a mentor.
Most people are not eager to use it, because of their pride, ego, idiocy or whatever you want to call it.
If you are eager to use it, then you will be one of the few enjoying the massive rewards of this approach
Ask someone successful to work for him for free because you want to learn.
Here is the secret:
Tell them you value knowledge and life experience over money and that you DO NOT care if you get paid, as long as you learn.
When a mentor sees you are legit (i.e. willing to put in the work hours and willing to learn), they will take you under their wing, and open up with tips that’ll change your life.
That IS impressive.
That’s not something everyone can do. It instantly separates you from the crowd and makes you look interesting.
Enormously successful people use their accomplishments to fuel their ambitions.
That’s how you accomplish more.
— Damian Pros (@dareandconquer) May 31, 2016
Of course, there is a chance that even if you did this, the answer could still be a “no”. That’s fine. If someone refuses once or twice, you don’t want to become annoying.
Move on, but it may be wise to keep in touch and see what they are up to. You may be able to offer them some value in the future.
This formula for getting a mentor is not called “unfailing” because it works 100% of the time.
I call this unfailing because if you keep doing it, it won’t fail. And you won’t fail. You don’t need 100 mentors, you just need a couple of the right ones.
These 5 steps will help you get them.
Until Next Time,
Keep Daring And Conquering,
Damian “Pros” Prosalendis – New Age Conqueror
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